Since I became an entrepreneur, people always ask me, “how do you deal with the pressure, people, challenges, relationships, family, etc.?” The answer is, I don’t . At least, not all at once.

When I began my journey as a small business owner, it felt like the entire world was on my shoulders. I was dealing with the stress of becoming an entrepreneur, figuring out finances, challenging myself personally, maintaining relationships with friends, family, and a significant other, all while making sure I look fantastic every day (look good = feel good, right?).

I hate to break it to you (and myself), but those pressures never stopped. I still deal with them to this day. The only thing that has changed is how I go about dealing with them.

I’m a fashion girl, I always have been. So I had to make this work in my Louboutin loving brain. I made shoe compartments. Hypothetically. Okay, I made shoes for my brain. Am I sounding crazy yet? I used compartmentalization to cope with everything that was going on around me. I imagined my brain to look like a free-standing shoe compartment with a pair of shoes in each slot that represented a part of my life.

Cue inner-voice:

“Let’s put my family shoes next to my boyfriend shoes….hmm no, that’s too risky. I’ll put my boyfriend shoes next to stressing-about-finances shoes! No, that doesn’t seem right either.”

I decided that no matter where the shoes were placed in my compartment, I would only wear one pair at a time, hence dealing with one issue at a time. Essentially, I made time for myself to deal with every single one of the stresses in my life, but never had to deal with them all at once.

The reason I’ve seen my business grow with success and my personal life flourish is because I recognized and embraced the fact that I had several full-time focuses, but only a limited amount of emotional and mental energy to devote to each one. With this tactic, I never really felt burnt out or on “E”. There’s not enough tea or yoga in the world to make my problems go away, so I decided to rock a pair of my “shoes” for only short amounts of time so I can continue walking- strutting my stuff through life.

How to do this for yourself? You, my sweet reader, are going to be okay. Follow these 5 steps:
1. Visualize your shoe compartment. Isolate each pair of shoes (issues) from each other.
2. When you wear a pair of your shoes, really focus on it, but only for a short amount of time.
3. Take baby steps. Don’t jump too far ahead the second you start to see progress.
4. Take the shoes off, stretch, put the next pair on.
5. Say “no” to a pair of shoes that doesn’t deserve a compartment on your brain.

“Life is short. We can live it lost in our own thoughts, or we can choose to be present, moment to moment, watching as life unfolds around us.” -Headspace


Name: Elisabetta Fantone

Occupation/Company: Painter, Actress, Wife, Mother

Instagram: @elisabettafantone


How did you get to where you are today?
Lots of hard work, determination, never taking no for an answer and never listening to the naysayers.

What is your elevator pitch on what you do?
Thankfully, I’ve never really had to rely on elevator pitches to get to where I am today.

How do you define success?
To me, success isn’t really about how much money you make but rather on being able to survive by doing what you love in life.

What have been some of the most rewarding things in your career thus far?
I’ve been on a few television and movie productions that were pretty rewarding such as my first movie, My Name is Sandy and Tim Burton’s Big Eyes, where I got to share the screen with Amy Adams and the great Christophe Waltz. I’ve published two books, I’ve designed two watches for CORUM, the world renowned watch maker, I’ve collaborated with an international fashion designer on a line of dresses, I’ve painted a number of large murals, two of which are located in Wynwood, which is considered to be one of the top art districts in north America and I’ve been commissioned to paint some of the world’s most iconic celebrities such as Muhammad Ali, Celine Dion and the Kardashians. More recently, I artistically revamped the National Hotel in Miami Beach including the total makeover of a suite that now bares my name, that’s pretty rewarding.

What have been some of the hiccups (mistakes) along the way and what have you learned from them? 
I think my biggest mistake was to trust the wrong people early on in my career. What I’ve learned with time is that if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is, but most importantly, you should never sell yourself short.

What do you still want to achieve personally and/or professionally?
As a mother I’d like to have another child. As a painter, I’d like to have a solo show in world renowned museum and as an actor, like every other actor out there, I would like to earn an Academy Award.

Who has been your greatest inspiration?

I’ve always avoided limiting myself to one single influence and I would say that I’m mostly influenced by the world around me! I think it would stifle my creativity if I were to stick to one way of thinking or one source of influence. My thoughts and ideas evolve every day with my work and I never know where my next idea will come from. It can come from a song I just heard, or something in nature or even a story I was recently told. I try to be receptive and open at all times.

What causes you anxiety/sleepless nights?
I used to worry about the most meaningless things until I gave birth to my baby girl, now I can tell you what real anxiety and sleepless nights are.

What makes you truly, genuinely happy?
I can honestly say that no matter where I am, being with my husband and child truly fulfills me.

What advice would you tell your 21-year-old self?
To always stay true to yourself and to follow your dreams no matter what. We have a limited time here on earth and so life is too short to be wasting it on something that does not fulfill you.

What is the biggest misconception about what you do?
It’s mostly messy and not always glamorous. It’s lots of sleepless nights and countless hours of hard labor to get to a final product that people assume was easy to achieve.

Any words of inspiration or your favorite quote?
Let the naysayers fuel your ambition and perseverance. If you have a vision and the will, you can create anything and be whoever you want to be.

I have a love for many things. Wine, clothes, Chanel and puppies, but my love for traveling solo is one that can’t be compared. You might be thinking “Oh hell no. I can barely go shopping by myself.” Fair enough! It’s a scary thought, but have you ever considered embracing the challenge and learning more about yourself in the process? I can attest, it’s pretty amazing.

Traveling with people gives you laughs, memories and a deeper connection. So, you’re wondering, how could traveling by yourself even compare? What if I told you that those memories and those laughs by yourself are way better? Girl, I know it sounds crazy, but trust me.

I have memories of extraordinary, eye-opening solo trips that no one will ever get to fully understand because it was MY experience.

Not only did I find that traveling alone wasn’t sad or worthy of someone’s sympathy, but it was also the trips on which I learned the most about myself and the world. I didn’t have anyone telling me what to do or begging me to try that one thing. It was just me and my experience. There is something so beautiful about that.

There are a ton of reasons why people might travel alone – they might want to do a little soul searching or need some time away from everyday life. I have traveled around the freaking globe by myself and each trip has served a different purpose.

I traveled to Thailand for a spiritual journey where I visited an orphanage and rode on the back of an elephant through the river. Who else can say that? That trip was one I will never forget and taught me so much Yes, I was scared of the unknown and putting myself out of my comfort zone, but I did it. I now have memories in pictures that you can see but only I can relive.

I journeyed through Europe just to, well, live it up… literally. I call Europe my party place. I am by no means a crazy partier. Let’s be real, I’m in bed at 9 p.m. most nights. I do, however, like to occasionally treat myself to a good time, and Europe is just the place for that. Yes, I may have skinny dipped at a secluded beach on the Amalfi coast, and that’s perfectly fine. I embraced living in the moment.

Traveling alone can be a whirlwind of unexpected emotions. I’ve been in many situations during my travels where I have been scared, lonely, uncertain and frustrated. What is important about those moments is that I got through them. Most importantly, I got through them alone. If it had not been for those times when I felt afraid or homesick, I might not have the same outlook on life I hold now.

Whenever I think there is something I can’t accomplish, I look back on those times I was alone and uncertain, but found my way through it.
After traveling through countries where nothing seems familiar, not knowing a single word of the language and finding your way through foreign streets to a beautiful destination, you will realize there is nothing in this world you cannot do.

I love that saying “What will you do with your crazy and beautiful life?” I can look back and say “I wasn’t afraid of taking chances, I learned to love myself and took a leap of faith.” Can you say the same? I challenge you to book that trip you have been dreaming of and stop waiting on your girls or your man to say yes. Just do it. By yourself.

Have you taken a solo trip? I would love to hear about your experiences in the comments below!

Let’s keep the party going! We’re extending our biggest sale of the year through the weekend.  Enjoy an extra 10% off through Sunday, 3/4.

– Extra 10% off
– Up to 80 percent off all store merchandise
– $10 and $20 bins
– $25 graphic tees
– $5 L&L cash for every $50 spent

Guests’ will enjoy complimentary refreshments from Organic Wine Cellars while shopping the Semi-Annual Sale, and those who spend over $100.00 will leave with a fashion-filled gift bag.

Get social with us and you might just get 30% off your entire purchase!

It’s easy:

1. Follow @LilacAndLilies_Boutique on Instagram.

2. Tag @LilacAndLilies_Boutique on your photo.

3. If we repost your photo, you automatically get 30% off!

4. Simply show our repost at the register to claim.

march-events-featuredJoin us at Lilac And Lilies for an eventful March! Please see our event schedule below. Please note, event details are subject to change. Please call the store at 954.530.3109 for questions.

February 23 – March 2

Semi-Annual Sale

Up to 80% off storewide, sweet treats, sips, and more!

March 17

St. Patrick’s Day Flash Sale

17% off storewide one day only.


michelle dimarco

Oh February, you are deemed the love holiday. Is it just me or do you have a love/hate relationship with this month too? I mean, if you’re in a relationship you can’t wait for February. If you are single, like me (Heyyyo, let’s get to drinkin’), you hate this month. This past year I promised myself one thing: I chose to love myself and practice self-care.

This isn’t the superficial sense of self-love, like exercising regularly and watching less of that trashy TV. I already have that covered. I mean to fully love myself–inside and out.

I asked myself a while back, “Are you proud of where you are today?” Sure, I have an amazing career and business to back me up, and I have had great opportunities but that isn’t really the meat of the question I was asking myself. The question was, “Am I proud of who I am and where I am?” The answer then was no.

In that moment of realization, all the obstacles I had gone through came rushing to my head. I might have cried for my failed relationships and second all the hardships I have encountered, but in the end, I cried hardest for the person I never allowed myself to become.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but in that moment of asking myself that simple question, it all clicked. I chose to start living up to my own potential. To start making myself proud. To start living my truth and not anyone else’s. To truly have self-love unlike anything I have ever experienced. To be the Michelle that I have always wanted to be.

When I first thought of this, I panicked. I mean to love your entire being you have to open up wounds and revisit battle scars that you promised to never look at again, but that’s the beauty of it all.

I wanted to love myself to the point of waking up every morning with a heart overflowing with gratitude for all I was blessed with in life. To love myself unconditionally–quirks, flaws, potty mouth and all. To love myself the way I hoped for someone else to one day love me and unafraid to show it.

I am now strong enough to look back at my past and be like “Michelle, you handled that the best way you could and look where you are at now.” I love that about me. I love my scars and I love the woman I am today because of them.

That’s not to say that life is fine or that I don’t still experience struggles. I experience thoughts of self-doubt on a daily basis. I always think of the “what ifs” that have no right to take up headspace.

Self-love is a process, one that will never be truly complete (wine has become my best friend). There will always be more I could improve on, more I can learn, and more kindness I can show to myself and others.

In the vein of extending that kindness to myself, I constantly need reminding that yes, I am deeply flawed in many ways, but that is what makes me human, and I deserve love anyway. My own love.

I am still on the path to loving myself and to knowing and living my truth. I can say in all honesty that I love myself now more than ever, and I know I will come to love myself more deeply in the future. It’s a freaking process that I have learned to love.

However, no matter where I am in the process of self-love I have to remember…

I am enough and I am loved.

fort lauderdale clothing sale

Shop the Seasons Biggest Sale at our Semi-Annual Sale featuring up to 80 percent off the entire store starting Friday, February 23 through Friday, March 2.

All week shoppers can indulge in huge markdowns on the season’s top designer styles including:
– Up to 80 percent off all store merchandise
– $10 and $20 bins
– $25 graphic tees
– $5 L&L cash for every $50 spent.

Guests’ will enjoy complimentary refreshments from Organic Wine Cellars while shopping the Semi-Annual Sale, and those who spend over $100.00 will leave with a fashion-filled gift bag.

The 1,700 sqft. brick and mortar boutique and e-retailer share the name Lilac And Lilies, which speaks to the feminine and flirty trends and styles for today’s contemporary woman. Shoppers will find seasonal collections from coveted designers such as L*SPACE, Kendra Scott, Blank NYC, and Bishop and Young alongside stunning accessories and handbags for every occasion.

There’s no one right way to do Valentine’s Day, and different agendas call for different outfits. Especially now that V-Day falls on a Wednesday (so weird), some of us may be celebrating this weekend. Whether you’re staying in for a cozy night with your boo, catching a movie with your girlfriends or going to a bomb dinner under the stars, the inspiration shots ahead will guarantee you a most fashionable holiday.

#1. The casual day-date

It’s 2018 and not everyone is doing the whole candlelit-dinner thing come Wednesday. Maybe this is your first Valentine’s Day with your special someone or you and handsome are wanting to switch things up. Enter the day-date… Day-dates are honestly my favorite, but what lady hasn’t had trouble picking out that perfect daytime appropriate outfit. Is it too fancy? Is it too casual? Trust me I have been there. Try a lightweight material like this lilac dress from Lucy Love Lala Maxi. Or maybe your date requires a lot of running around town and exploring! Pair this adventure with our Yumi Kim Lizzy Romper. Black is always in, but when you add a splash of Valentine’s Day pink, it will definitely make his eyes go BING. Remember, you don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard, girl.

valentines day outfits

#2 Paint the town sexy

These looks are for my girls who are headed out for date night – ready to ignite the FIRE and let the sparks fly. You get it. I love the idea of something sexy that doesn’t scream cliché Valentine’s Day but is also a little mysterious. Paint the town red with this Yumi Kim So Social Dress. Yes, of course red is a go-to color but it’s freaking hot! Rocking a dress that accentuates the waist is sexy and sophisticated. This dress also shows a little leg which is perfect for the occasion. Or try this lacy romantic number, the Abigail Dress, for a winning combination on date night. I think these are the perfect effortless ensembles to make your man swoon and leave a lasting impression.

valentines day outfits

#3 Calling all my single ladies

So, you might not have a date for this ONE day. Who the fuck cares? Galentine’s day is a thing, and I fully support it. Maybe this is the perfect night to take it to the couch with the girls and turn on that show you have been effortlessly binge-watching. Or postpone the party to the weekend with a girlfriends-only pool party. Talk about fun in the sun! Pair this hot day with L*Spaces’ spicy Josie Top and Lily Bottom. An inflatable swan is also highly recommended.

sexy valentines day outfits

Single or not, Valentine’s Day is a day that should be addressed in a fashionable matter… with wine in the mix. Make Valentine’s Day 2018 one that you will never forget and one that makes you love yourself above all.

Emily Merrell

Name: Emily Merrell
Occupation/Company: Founder- Six Degrees Society
Instagram: @Six_Degrees_Society

How did you get to where you are today?

I’m a big fan of following your path and journey and watching it unfold. I think it all started when I decided to move to Argentina after college. In Argentina my main objective was to move to a foreign country I had never been to and build a network and a life there. After 9 months living and working in fabulous Buenos Aires I moved to NYC to start my “grown up” life. It was in Argentina that I met at woman that connected me to my first boss who hired me at Ralph Lauren and later on at Tory Burch. It was there i met one of my best friends who has helped build my San Francisco market of Six Degrees Society. Essentially it’s through my network and support system that has led me to where I am today. My career in fashion really helped set the stage for a wider net of creativity and connections that i’ve tapped into over and over again.

What is your elevator pitch on what you do?

We handpick who you meet while networking by creating curated handpicked connections tailored just for you based on bios submitted pre-event. At our events you’ll meet personal, professional and future life self connections.

Emily Merrell

How do you define success?

When someone says, “I’ve heard of you before.” or “I’m on your mailing list!” Yet I think I’ll feel truly successful when Oprah starts talking about us.

What have been some of the most rewarding things in your career thus far?

Working at Ralph Lauren and Tory Burch were two of the most rewarding and exciting companies to work for from working with amazing employees throughout, to building out some elaborate events with some quite memorable people. One event that will forever stick in my mind was an evening at the Ralph Lauren flagship women’s store on 72nd and Madison in NYC where Ralph Lauren was hosting Gloria Vanderbilt and Wendy Goodman for a book signing. The evening was perfect from the handsome waiters to the impeccably dressed attendees. The best part was celebrating the event being over with my team. Overall I love seeing an event through start to finish from ideating it to being there and seeing people’s reactions to

What have been some of the hiccups (mistakes) along the way and what have you learned from them?

Ohhhh hiccups. I once had booked an event venue and the day of the event I was told it wasn’t on their schedule so they couldn’t host us. I ended up getting on the phone and working out a solution with the girl working that day and ultimately took her out to lunch.

I have 5 learnings:

  • Stay cool under pressure
  • There is always a plan B available
  • Be kind, honest and understanding
  • Admit you’re wrong and apologize
  • Be clear in all of your communications

What do you still want to achieve personally and/or professionally?

Oh man, where do I start. Now that Six Degrees Society has moved from being my hobby to my business I want to find other hobbies to focus on. I love making jewelry and being crafty and am eager to get back into those routines. Professionally I’d love to build an connection platform and resource hub, start a podcast, write a book, launch a talk show, expand our chapters nationally and internationally and grow our team.

Emily Merrell

Who has been your greatest inspiration?

My mom. She was a single mompreneuer and she seemed to marry all of her passions within her business. She used to design menu covers for hotels and restaurants and was constantly visiting and traveling to the top hotels and restaurants in the world. She also worked from home so it was hard to juggle being both a mom and a business woman yet I so loved seeing her work and having her at home.

What makes you truly, genuinely happy?

Getting into a robe or cozy pajamas at the end of the day and snuggling with my step-dog.

What advice would you tell your 21-year-old self?

You have no idea where life will take you, enjoy the ride and let it unfold– but also go into sales!

What is the biggest misconception about what you do?

People think I’m a matchmaker– and get confused when I say it’s women only.

Any words of inspiration or your favorite quote?

“Just breathe” from Ever After