Since I became an entrepreneur, people always ask me, “how do you deal with the pressure, people, challenges, relationships, family, etc.?” The answer is, I don’t . At least, not all at once.
When I began my journey as a small business owner, it felt like the entire world was on my shoulders. I was dealing with the stress of becoming an entrepreneur, figuring out finances, challenging myself personally, maintaining relationships with friends, family, and a significant other, all while making sure I look fantastic every day (look good = feel good, right?).
I hate to break it to you (and myself), but those pressures never stopped. I still deal with them to this day. The only thing that has changed is how I go about dealing with them.
I’m a fashion girl, I always have been. So I had to make this work in my Louboutin loving brain. I made shoe compartments. Hypothetically. Okay, I made shoes for my brain. Am I sounding crazy yet? I used compartmentalization to cope with everything that was going on around me. I imagined my brain to look like a free-standing shoe compartment with a pair of shoes in each slot that represented a part of my life.
“Let’s put my family shoes next to my boyfriend shoes….hmm no, that’s too risky. I’ll put my boyfriend shoes next to stressing-about-finances shoes! No, that doesn’t seem right either.”
I decided that no matter where the shoes were placed in my compartment, I would only wear one pair at a time, hence dealing with one issue at a time. Essentially, I made time for myself to deal with every single one of the stresses in my life, but never had to deal with them all at once.
The reason I’ve seen my business grow with success and my personal life flourish is because I recognized and embraced the fact that I had several full-time focuses, but only a limited amount of emotional and mental energy to devote to each one. With this tactic, I never really felt burnt out or on “E”. There’s not enough tea or yoga in the world to make my problems go away, so I decided to rock a pair of my “shoes” for only short amounts of time so I can continue walking- strutting my stuff through life.
How to do this for yourself? You, my sweet reader, are going to be okay. Follow these 5 steps:
1. Visualize your shoe compartment. Isolate each pair of shoes (issues) from each other.
2. When you wear a pair of your shoes, really focus on it, but only for a short amount of time.
3. Take baby steps. Don’t jump too far ahead the second you start to see progress.
4. Take the shoes off, stretch, put the next pair on.
5. Say “no” to a pair of shoes that doesn’t deserve a compartment on your brain.
“Life is short. We can live it lost in our own thoughts, or we can choose to be present, moment to moment, watching as life unfolds around us.” -Headspace